Esteem is a simple word. It is worth and value that we apply to people, places and situations. It is the amount of respect we assess. We have esteem for our country leaders. We have esteem for our worship places. We have esteem for an exemplary performance whether it is in sports, acting or simply doing any right thing.But the most important place we nee to apply esteem is within ourselves. We must maintain our self-esteem in order to place value on ourselves as a worthy individual in the world. Self-esteem can affect every single part of our lives. If that esteem is low, our lives will be dull and gray. Elevating esteem for ourselves could well be the key to happiness in life.
Most people’s feelings and thoughts about themselves fluctuate somewhat based on their daily experiences. The grade you get on an exam, how your friends treat you, ups and downs in a romantic relationship-all can have a temporary impact on your wellbeing.
Your own self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” associated with situation changes. For people with good basic self-esteem, normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent. In contrast, for people with poor basic self-esteem, these “ups and downs” may make all the difference in the world.
People with poor self-esteem often rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and though that constantly plague them. Even then, the good feeling (from a good grade, etc) can be temporary.
Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and to value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and at the same time accepting ourselves worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.
What we want to do is help you raise your self-esteem to levels that will enhance your life and the way you view life. It can make a tremendous difference in your quality of life. Learning techniques to raise self-esteem can be taught and put into practice in just a few days. However, it will take practice to keep your self-worth at the forefront.
Salam sdr. Ruslie,
Selamat menjalani ibadah puasa. I totally agree with you about self esteem. I believe self esteem should be nurtured from when we were kids by our parents and teachers. Good parenting can result in children having good self esteem that would serves them well in their teen and adulthood. Teachers too play a role in self esteem building.
Thank you for sharing.
salam,
sememangnya self esteen amat diperlukan dan penting untuk kesinambungan emosi dan rasional individu, terima kasih berkongsikan artikel yg amat berfaedah ini
Waalaikumusalam sdra etomyam,
Thanks sudi singgah kat blog saya. Sebenarnya masyarakat kita semakin ramai yang ‘berpenyakit’, mereka dah hilang rasa hormat terhadap yang lain. Mudah2an mereka akan cepat sedar dgn adanya self esteem dlm diri masing2.
Waalaikumusalam sdri umihoney,
Thanks sudi jenguk kembali kat sini. Puasa kita pun dah tinggal setengah lagi. Umi raya kat mana? In fact self esteem should be from early age. Kanak2 itu adalah permata negara. Perlu ditanamkan perasaan hormat mereka kepada orang dewasa. Kalau kita tengok masyarakat Jepun, itu sebab mereka boleh bangkit cepat selepas perang dunia ke-2. Dari Tokyo hingga ke pekan kecil di daerah Kyoto saya jelajahi, mmg saya tabik pada mereka. Terasa tak larat pula rasanya nak balas tunduk hormat mereka pada kita.
setiap orang harus ada self esteem nie…
Zik, masyarakat kita dah semakin porak-peranda…self esteem memainkan peranan yang kuat.
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